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Heather Hausenblas, PhD's avatar

This is helpful. It takes awhile to spot one. I've worked with a few.

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Code Bản Thể's avatar

Let it go once read done below

Even red flags

flutter in the wind of mind

But who is watching them?

To name the pattern

is still to stay within it

To step out

not by judging

but by ceasing to be the judge

Let the flags wave

Don’t be the one holding the pole

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Irena Morgan's avatar

Thank you so much for this. I have been longing for an IFS-informed view of narcissism and you have delivered a compassionate and courageous insight. Very much appreciated. Wishing you and Jeff well with the process of birthing your book. I look forward to it 🙏

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Thalita Forray's avatar

Thanks for writing this, its definitely food for thought. However, this makes me feel like everyone I know is a narcissist... its very broad. Everyone has character flaws and isn't perfect all the time; especially when people are stressed, worried or dealing with personal issues they may dance in and out of these behaviours but that doesnt mean they are a narcissist. There must be more specific behaviors? What would be the top ten signs because 40+ signs feels like the whole world is screwed lol.

Again thank you for sharing but I did have this thought and wanted to hear your response.

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Lissa Rankin, MD's avatar

Ha! You made me laugh. Many of us have narcissistic parts, myself included. But it's dose-dependent. It's one thing to brag every now and then when you're feeling proud of yourself. It's another thing to intentionally manipulate someone's reality with regular gaslighting!

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