I recorded this meditation for you to support you when your parts are activated, and you’re not entirely sure whats going on, like when you suddenly feel a rush of sadness or anger or jealousy or disappointment, and the intensity seems out of proportion to what’s actually happening.
I hear that it the intensity of your feels seemed out of proportion to you. I also notice a part of me that said in response to reading your account "how incredibly thoughtless, I would have felt angry and hurt too"!!! I know that your parts don't necessarily need external validation however felt moved to share this with you.
Thanks for the validation. Yes, it was thoughtless. But it wasn't about the salad. And it wasn't about using IFS to bypass accountability either. It was about being with my own parts first, before addressing it with him. Sometimes, when I do this, there are no parts from the past, and this is the first time something hurts. But very often, reactivating old parts can make me overreact to something in present time that might still be upsetting, but then I know why and can be with myself before I protest the behavior to someone else.
I hear that it the intensity of your feels seemed out of proportion to you. I also notice a part of me that said in response to reading your account "how incredibly thoughtless, I would have felt angry and hurt too"!!! I know that your parts don't necessarily need external validation however felt moved to share this with you.
Thanks for the validation. Yes, it was thoughtless. But it wasn't about the salad. And it wasn't about using IFS to bypass accountability either. It was about being with my own parts first, before addressing it with him. Sometimes, when I do this, there are no parts from the past, and this is the first time something hurts. But very often, reactivating old parts can make me overreact to something in present time that might still be upsetting, but then I know why and can be with myself before I protest the behavior to someone else.
Make bacon of him. Than toss him on the lawn and make a grass salad to feed to the chickens.