That "Safe Vulnerability" thing.. man that's huge. I also got on Meetup at the suggestion of my therapist and surprisingly I enjoy it so far. It's not perfect, but it gets me around other people. So far I have gone on some virtual meditative writing Zooms and a Mindful Hike that was pleasant but not as interactive as it was quiet and I didn't talk to people that much because of it. I am going on a Singles Cookout on Sunday with a mixed bunch of about 12 strangers and I am not sure how it's going to go. I figure I have to put myself out there and try some things to see what sticks. I'm looking to date again but..yeah..that vulnerability..ouch.
I really loved and appreciated this piece Lissa! As someone healing from an intense fawn response-- I've had to rebuild my life now that that part is no longer blended with my whole identity. Learning to make new connections with Self now at the table has been awesome. Often, still hard and confusing. Challenging, but oh so beautiful. ♡
That "Safe Vulnerability" thing.. man that's huge. I also got on Meetup at the suggestion of my therapist and surprisingly I enjoy it so far. It's not perfect, but it gets me around other people. So far I have gone on some virtual meditative writing Zooms and a Mindful Hike that was pleasant but not as interactive as it was quiet and I didn't talk to people that much because of it. I am going on a Singles Cookout on Sunday with a mixed bunch of about 12 strangers and I am not sure how it's going to go. I figure I have to put myself out there and try some things to see what sticks. I'm looking to date again but..yeah..that vulnerability..ouch.
Let it go once reade done below
Criteria belong to the self that separates.
But what if no self leads?
What if no one is choosing?
Then
the meeting is not between two
but through one still field
where no roles arise
no preferences cling
no seeker remains
Not friend
Not partner
Just presence
mirrored
I really loved and appreciated this piece Lissa! As someone healing from an intense fawn response-- I've had to rebuild my life now that that part is no longer blended with my whole identity. Learning to make new connections with Self now at the table has been awesome. Often, still hard and confusing. Challenging, but oh so beautiful. ♡